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Jim Menegay's avatar

I got here only because of your shameless and annoying self promotion on ACX. It worked and I do it too, so ... "Well done". :)

But I think you are totally missing the point with this post. The OP wrote "If you HAVE TO identify as a man..." The HAVE TO was load bearing. You failed to engage. Try harder next time.

Steven—I'm Writing tAFM's avatar

Fair hit on “HAVE TO” being load-bearing, though I don’t think I failed to engage it so much as split it differently.

I was treating “have to” in the internal-consistency sense: if X is in fact my self-description, then I “have to” answer that way unless I lie or answer incoherently.

But you’re right that there’s another “have to” hiding there: social compulsion / compelled performance / demand for recognition. That version probably deserved its own little organ bucket on the autopsy table.

Also: I'm glad to hear the shameless-annoying pipeline is operational.